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The Language Nobody Taught You to Hear with Jeremy Doran

Episode Summary

The coworker who drives you up a wall might not be difficult — they might just be speaking a language nobody ever taught you to hear. Robin talks with leadership coach Jeremy Doran, author of NeuroConversant Leadership, about why our most frustrating people are often our greatest allies, how to move from the what to the why, and the small shift that makes any hard conversation land better. What conversation is worth your courage?

Episode Notes

We call people "difficult" when really they're just wired to see the world differently — and Jeremy Doran has spent his life learning to translate. Jeremy and Robin unpack how to stop reacting to "that person" and start getting curious, why explaining your why defuses conflict before it starts, and how the same skills that save a team meeting save a marriage, a friendship, and a conversation with your kid.

What we cover

• Why the person you find hardest to talk to might be your most valuable ally
• The teenage Myers-Briggs moment that changed how Jeremy saw everyone
• Why cognitively diverse teams outperform — and why they're uncomfortable
• Getting to their truth: you don't have to agree, you have to understand
• Moving from the what to the why to find common ground
• Telling people why before a conversation ("I need help" vs. "I need advice" vs. "just listen")
• Why "We need to talk" backfires — and what to say instead
• "Just hold the bucket — don't fix it": setting expectations in relationships
• The engineers-vs-marketing story + Robin's TSA line-cutting experiment

🎁 Free resource: Close one open loop this week — grab the free Close the Loops worksheet at https://closetheloopsnow.com

Connect with Jeremy Doran

Book: NeuroConversant Leadership: How to Connect with People Who Think, Work, and See the World Differently
Podcast: NeuroConversant Leadership
LinkedIn: Jeremy Doran Speaks
Website: neuroconversantleadership.com 

Connect with Robin

Close The Loops Now (free resources) 
Stop Stealing From Yourself