I'm in the hot seat this time. Mindset coach Lori Watson walks me live through her four-step process for changing a story you're stuck in, using a 32-year-old Saturday morning that shaped my whole marriage. Grab a pen and play along with your own story.
Most of the time, I ask the questions. This time I'm the one in the hot seat.
Lori Watson defines mindset as the story you're telling yourself. We tell stories about the past and call them memories. We tell stories about the future and call them goals. The words inside those stories shape the lens we see ourselves, other people, and the world through, and most of the time we don't notice.
In this episode, Lori walks me through her four-step process live. The story I chose is 32 years old: two babies under two, a sleepless night, a husband heading out to tennis, and one small "no" that ended with me thinking, "Fine. I'll do it myself." I called that independence for a long time. Somewhere in the second read I heard it for what it was.
Grab a pen. Pick a story of your own and pause the episode to do each step alongside me.
We talk about:
— Why the stories in our heads move too fast to observe, and why writing them down slows them enough to see
— The four steps: title it, write it, read it slowly, then read it again with a full breath between every sentence
— Why we speed up when a story hurts, and why letting the intensity rise for a minute helps you let it go
— "It's not the experience that gets us. It's what we made it mean about ourselves."
— Facts vs. story: the facts don't change, the story is an opinion, and opinions can be changed
— How one ordinary morning can quietly write the script for decades
— Helping kids and teens: "just because a thought pops into your head doesn't mean it's true, or that it's you"
— Why you shouldn't argue with "nobody cares about me," and how to validate the feeling without validating the story
Lori is a mindset coach who works with high-achieving women, busy moms, professionals, and entrepreneurs.
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Website, free resources, and her free monthly Zoom workshop: loriwatsoncoaching.com
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